Once you've identified the distortion, the spell is broken. Now, you have the power to **Refract** the event through different lenses. This isn't about "positive thinking"—it's about "accurate thinking."
The goal is to generate as many plausible explanations as possible for the same data. By doing so, you demonstrate to your nervous system that the "Scary Story" is just one possibility among many.
Assume the other person is doing their best with the tools they have. What else could this mean?
How is this event actually a setup for your growth or protection? What is the utility?
How much will this matter in 5 years? If it's zero, what does that tell you about its weight now?
How would the version of you that you admire most respond to this specific data point?
The preceding pages mapped the immediate surface. These next five questions are designed to dig past your immediate defenses and uncover the load-bearing logic of your patterns.
Do not rush them. If a question causes an immediate feeling of resistance, annoyance, or a sudden desire to "skip it"—that is the exact question where your deepest structural weakness lies. Answer clinically and honestly.